Spying on your estranged spouse or ex

Many times over the years, people would bring in copies of emails (or phone records, etc.) from their ex or soon to be ex as part of their interview for their social study. Their hope was that the information in the emails or other documents would make the other person look bad.

They never seemed to think that what they were doing –spying — was wrong. They always had an excuse for what they did. However, it doesn’t matter. The fact that they violated the privacy of the other person was inappropriate and made them seem controlling.

Not only is this type of activity unethical, it is also illegal. Just recently, an Austin man was arrested and charged with unlawful interception of electronic communication which is a felony. If convicted he faces up to 20 years in prison and a $10,000 fine.

Following your ex (stalking) is also a crime. No matter your reasoning, these things should not be done. It’s really not worth you going to prison for.

Even if you think you’re protecting your child by your activities, if you get caught, who will protect your child then if she needs it?

It’s been my experience that those who participate in these type of behaviors are usually very controlling individuals and more interested in causing problems for their ex or keeping tabs on them for their own reasons rather than anything to do with their children.

My advice: Just don’t do it.

How about you? Do you have any thoughts on the subject?

*NOTE: Here’s my typical disclaimer for these posts–These opinions are mine alone and are based on my years of experience. They are not meant as legal advice nor as representative of anyone else’s opinion. If you need legal advice (and I believe if you’re involved in child custody litigation, you really do),  please consult with an attorney.

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2 Responses

  1. Piper Bayard

    What sensible advice! People don’t realize that, when they put that much effort into making the other person look bad, they are really only damaging themselves and behaving like middle school girls, regardless of their gender. If the other person is aweful, it will show. They just need to let the facts speak for themselves and not go rooting around like Mrs. Cravitz spying out her window with binoculars. Thanks for the post.

  2. Rhonda Hopkins

    You are so right, Piper! The bad shows up usually without aid from the other person. Loved the Mrs. Cravitz comparison! Thank you for stopping by and commenting. 🙂