I know this is different than the rest of my website. But before I was a published author, I spent nearly twenty years doing investigations for the state and family courts. The last ten years, I conducted custody investigations, making recommendations for custody and access of children during family court litigation. I saw first-hand how devastating divorce, or any type of custody litigation could be on families, and especially on children. So, it’s still very important to me that those that need help can find it easily.
Early on in my blogging, I posted several times about family court issues, co-parenting, domestic violence, and drug & alcohol abuse. Please note: I am NOT an attorney. Nothing I’ve written or anything written by my guests are to be considered as legal advice. For specific questions to legal issues, please consult with an attorney. Nor should anything written by me or a guest be considered advice for medical or mental-health purposes. If you’re having issues that need a professional, please consult with your doctor or mental-health care professional.
I have two books to recommend to you below. But, first, here are some articles you might find helpful:
5 Things Parents Need to Know — Guest Post by Kassandra Lamb
Safe and Secure: Home Modifications for Domestic Abuse Survivors – Guest Post by Nora Hood
An Inside Look at Alcoholics Anonymous — Guest Post by Darlene Steelman
What is Al-Anon Like — Guest Post by Christina Stachura
Why Do We Hurt The Ones We Love — Guest Post by Kassandra Lamb
Domestic Violence, A Personal Story — Guest Post by Michelle Wright
Other helpful blogs:
I also have two books to recommend to you if you’re going through a divorce or custody litigation.
You may be divorcing, divorced, never married, a grandparent, or other relative of a child growing up between two homes. For whatever reason you find yourself in the situation of helping a child grow up between two homes, it’s normal to wonder how to do so now that you’re no longer (or maybe never were) a single-home family. Between Two Homes has the answers. In this book, you’ll learn how to remain or become coparents (instead of opponents) and how to help your child grow and thrive while living between two homes.
Between Two Homes helps you:
- Build a successful coparenting relationship so you can stop fighting and start communicating
- Recognize obstacles to the coparenting relationship
- Take advantage of alternatives to litigation–you don’t have to fight it out in court
- Talk to your child about the changes using language he or she can understand
- Learn the special needs of your child at various stages, from newborn to teenager
- Create a coparenting plan
- Learn what behaviors, and even what words, can help or hurt your child
This book is also a helpful resource for mental health professionals and family law professionals. Not only does it provide helpful tools to help families, but it is a valuable text to provide to your clients.
According to the U.S. Census Bureau, the average woman’s family income drops by 37% after divorce. Do you know what assets or how much alimony or child support you are entitled to receive? Has your spouse threatened to leave you penniless? Have you spoken to an attorney and gotten sticker-shock? Do you earn too much money to qualify for free legal aid? Are you unable to decipher the scary-looking legal forms your spouse keeps sending you in the mail? This book was written to help the low- and moderate-income women the legal system has abandoned by walking a hypothetical self-represented woman step-by-step through the divorce process. Including:
- How to prepare financially to stand on your own two feet;
What the court can, and cannot do for you;
‘Legwork’ that can save you money on legal fees and help you get a better outcome;
How much child support and alimony you might be entitled to receive;
How to show a judge that your spouse is lying about his assets and income;
What property you are entitled to receive … and should ask for;
Ways vindictive ex-spouses can screw you over;
Real life dirty tricks, traps, and pitfalls highlighted so you can avoid them;
How to find a good attorney, save legal fees, or piece together legal services if you can’t afford a full-service attorney;
Mediation … benefits and pitfalls;
How to dig up information your spouse doesn’t want you to know (discovery) like an attorney does;
Common court forms and how to fill them out;
Separation Agreements dissected and clarified (including a sample boilerplate);
Sample discovery requests and motions;
Sample hearing scripts for common court hearings (including Temporary Orders and Trial);
Restraining orders … how to get one … how to keep one;
Custody disputes … ‘fatal flaws’ and how you can fix them.
Everything you NEVER wanted to know about divorce … but need to come up to speed … FAST!!! This is the only self-help legal book written by a woman who was once in your shoes who later went back to school to become an attorney!